In this article, I would like to share our experiences with selecting a dress and shoes. I haven’t exactly decided yet ourselves, but have done a bunch of research online and have broadly starting to narrow it down. Obviously, once our wedding is done we will be sharing some pictures here as well and giving you an update of how it went. Fingers crossed that all goes well, of course!
Just from a practical standpoint, the attire that you want to wear during a beach wedding takes some careful consideration. You’re likely going to be in a hot and humid environment and you’re going to be walking on sand for most of the day. Those most likely aren’t the types of conditions you are dressed for on a daily basis (or maybe if you are lucky and work on a beach they are!). However, the most important thing that trumps everything is that you like what you’re going to wear. This will be the most important day of your life after all so you may be able to deal with some impracticalities if it makes you look amazing on your wedding day!
The Dress for You is the One You Keep Thinking About
Ok, so let’s start on the dress. A lot of times, before I decided on buying a dress, I would ask Tim whether it looks nice on me. This makes it harder to pick on my own wedding dress since Tim decided not to see it before the actual wedding day. I’m not sure if that was because he wanted it to be a surprise, or he simply didn’t want to get dragged to all these bridal stores… Haha! Fortunately, I have a good friend who I could always manage to drag along to see wedding dresses. Don’t underestimate the importance of having a few close girlfriends!
Having said that, choosing a wedding gown is not an easy task. I really don’t want to rush it and I want to take my time to explore my options. One of my good friends once said, “The one dress for you is the one that after you tried it on and left the store, you keep thinking about, and keep coming back to even after having tried on many different dresses afterwards.” I’ll be keeping that tip in mind when looking for the perfect dress.
Renting Versus Buying Your Dress
If you go to bridal shops, you will have options whether you want to rent/buy their existing dresses or custom made or “made to measure” it. If you decide to custom made your dress, you can also either buy or rent it afterwards. Of course this will cost more than renting what the store already have. The advantage of doing the “made to measure” is they can fit it on you, including the length. Now, being a petite person, a lot of time, the dresses that I tried on in the stores are too long even after I wear the high heels. When you rent a wedding dress from a bridal shop, they usually will help you on altering the size of the dress, but not the length since they will need to rent it to someone else after that. So cutting the length is not an option. So I’m considering this “made to measure” option.
Renting or buying is another decision that you need to make. Usually if you “made to measure” your dress, the price between renting and buying is not that much. However, you will need to find space in your closet to keep it if you want to buy it. Wedding dress is not something that you can wear anywhere else. People usually buy and keep it as a sentimental souvenir or some people would re-design or make it shorter so they’ll be able to wear it somewhere else. So whether you want to rent or buy your wedding dress is entirely up to you.
Take Your Time When Selecting Your Dress
In Singapore there is an area where you see a stretch of bridal shop and we went to almost every single store there are. One thing that may help you sort through the gazillion wedding dress choices is if you know what style/design and type of fabric you want. So you can do your research on-line on what would suit your taste before you go to the actual bridal shops. A lot of these shops would actually want you to settle the deal on the spot. I personally understand that they are competing with each other and would want to get the deal as soon as they can. But I would say, take your time and find the one that you really like. Of course you will have to make your decision as soon as you can since you will have to make sure that the dress you like is available on the day that you want to rent it. So start looking for your dress long before your actual wedding day.
Wedding Dress Design and Material
There are many choices of designs and fabric materials. For designs, you can either choose a long train or short train; ball gown or A-line or mermaid; different kind of necklines (halter/sweetheart/tube/asymmetries), and I’m sure there are thousands of other varieties. All in all, it’s very confusing….
I’m not so much of a designer so I’m not going to go through the details of all these different types of design. At the end of the day, you should pick the one that you like and that makes you a gorgeous bride! For myself, I don’t think I will go with too long of train because I’m afraid I’ll end up dragging so much sand and make it look dirty. I know it may sound silly, but that’s how I feel. Ball gown for me is not a choice for beach wedding either. It will look nice to wear it if you are holding your wedding in a ballroom. Either A-line or mermaid is something that I would go for. Mermaid or trumpet style usually will accentuate your curves more. So again it all depends on what you want.
There are also many types of materials for the wedding dress, whether it’s lace, chiffon, tulle or many others. I personally would like to wear something light and flowy for the beach wedding. I would most likely go for a chiffon material. Maybe a touch of lace won’t hurt either.
Beach Wedding Shoes
Now what about shoes? Knowing Tim is Dutch and they are famous for being very tall, I’m being stubborn and I would want to wear high heel shoes for my wedding. Dad once told me, “You need to wear at least 4-5 inches of heels. Otherwise your wedding pictures won’t look very nice!” Pressure… pressure… However if your wedding is on the beach, then most likely your heels are going to sink into the sand. Well, fortunately enough for us, our ceremony will be conducted on the deck by the beach, so wearing high heel shoes won’t be a big of a problem. However, even if it had been on the beach I’m sure I would have been stubborn enough to wear high heels anyway. I don’t care if I sink into the sand! At this point, I just need to figure out walking through the grass to get to the deck. Well, I’ll figure it out later, or any suggestions from you guys are of course also more than welcome!